Pratima Shah

In the vulnerable moments of life one makes a mistake of venting out frustration, relationship issues, secrets or any thing related to personal / professional life before a friend. The person never ever realizes that a blunder has been committed in venting things out to someone. For you the conversation has ended but the other party has already started sharing your secrets and spilling out the beans before others. It could be their friend / family/ strangers / colleagues or people from your inner circle. You vented it out thinking that this person would keep it as a secret and the damage is done. You have no clue how to manage the issues that follow after this. You are in a shock as to how could this person go and blab out your secrets to somebody else. In the life of every person there is one such person - a so called stupid friend  who keeps on spilling out the beans and blurts out your secrets and makes you feel embarrassed and awkward. These moments are unfortunate and the per

   Many of us have a natural tendency of  getting angry whenever we do not get what we desire. Sometimes it could be due to some person who is blocking our way or it could be due to the obstacles that God has put in our path. Most of us get frustrated in this situation and our frustrated energy gets transferred into anger. Anger against the situation / person / obstacles turn ourselves into angry birds. Anger is a by product that cannot be prevented but one can try things that will help to keep anger away. Never desire anything intensely in life; the more the desires / expectations the more the anger. That doesn't mean that one should not wish or have desires. But even if you desire / wish; do it with a high spirit. If it comes to you then good; if it doesn't then may be its is not the right time or there is something better coming your way. Do not be disappointed at that time and prepare yourself for the upcoming bundle that God has decided to put into your arms.    The

   We as humans are so helpless when anything unwanted by us happens in our lives. We try all means to undo what has been done. Sometimes it is done by us or sometimes God the Almighty does it in our life. Why can't we accept things as they are? We lack this quality of acceptance and do great harm to ourselves. Say for instance, we do not like a particular person who is with us at the workplace. What do we then? We always have conflict and a cold war like situation with that person. This gives stress to us and also to the person. The person is very good at work but just because he/she doesn't match with our thoughts or we have a different perspective related to something so we do not like the person. In such situations how right are we when we harbor resentment against the person? Is it not our fault that we are just judging a person as his/her's  perspectives or opinions do not match with ours.    Why do we expect that everyone should accept everything whatever we say

Today's age is the age of 'videoacy' rather than 'literacy'. The youth today just wants instant gratification and is looking for ways to convey their feelings and express them. The youth today is impressed by our literature but does not have the patience to read it. Rare and lucky are the ones who read literature and try to understand it. Literature is a medium of expression for any human being. Through it we come to know about our own personal traits/feelings/ behavior/ attitude towards a particular person/thing/situation. The youth barely has time for themselves, how are they going to spend time for reading a book. For the youth the instant source of expression is movies. Movies are also about literature and it becomes easy for them to draw a connect with them as movies help one to understand the complexities of human nature , its behavior and many other things related to a person. A movie can convey its message in two hours but it takes time to complete a bo

Most of the people around us must have had an experience of someone coming and advising them. For me it is always amusing when someone grabs the opportunity to advise me. Fiery and rebellious that I am, I never like to be advised upon. I prefer to trust my gut and do accordingly. People who have this tendency of advising are never able to digest if someone advises them. But still they are adamant to change their wicked habit of being an advisor. Most of the time the advices given to others are very tough to implement on our self whenever required at any point of time. While conversing in groups I observe so many experts sitting out there to advise one particular person who is sharing his/her problems or to the whole group. I sit there listening and feeling amused by the kind of issues which they have but never ever advise themselves to act in the manner they preach others. Taking advice and following it when told by others is not everyone's cup of tea. But still the experts in

   In today's time an individual barely finds the solitude to talk to himself/herself. Man today is surrounded by people all the time and amidst this gathering man talks of the benefits of solitude and realizes the power of solitude. The biggest tragedy is that today's individual prefers to live alone when in a crowd and seeks company when alone. How can a person with a family, friends and relatives be alone? Why not? Many of us are alone despite of having people around them. In distressing times an individual feels like getting free from all the ties that bind him/her to people. He/she seeks time to talk to the self. But most of the times when we talk to ourselves we talk about relations, work, money, career etc. But we do not try to know ourself; we do not speak to ourself.    Being in solitude means you need to speak to yourself about the way you feel, the emotions that rise in you and the issues that need to be seriously addressed. One needs to discover each and everyt

"To be or not to be" is a dilemma faced by most of the individuals. But connecting it to a life of a woman it can have a plethora of meanings for every woman. Women - whether working or home makers, come across many a situations in life when they need to pick up options - in the form of individuals, opinions, choices or anything in which they are confused. Despite of being educated and independent when it comes to their immediate family it gets rather tough to take decisions. Women do not have the freedom to get real. If they get real they are many judgements, criticisms and what not which they have to face. They are even warned and threatened with ultimatums from the immediate family. Despite of being surrounded by their clan, I have often found women remaining untouched by what is going around them. In the deepest corners of their heart they are lonely. They know they do not belong to that place where they are in but carry on with the flow of life by bearing the identi