Detached Love in Relations


   The world would be like a mechanical contraption if there is no love around. Love keeps the world going and alive. But what if if most of the love we get is just attachment and not love? What are the ways through which we express love? We do it by taking due care of the ones we love, by making them feel unique and special in every way and always wishing the best for them. Words too are a means to express love and it is very necessary that we all express our love towards our near and dear ones through words. There are many of us who get relief just by words of our loved ones. There is only one lubricant for all our relationships - and that is love.
   Love can get converted into an intense attachment towards a relation and attachment is negative. If my child is sick I tend to him till he becomes alright. This is love for my child. But even after he is alright I keep on worrying about him and fall sick that is my attachment towards the child. This is negative and cause problems between mother and child or between any relation. When there is attachment we can never see the bad / negative qualities of the person. We may have seen many mothers who neglect the bad / negative side of their child. Love is when we take due care; attachment creates a strong bondage. Attachment binds whereas love liberates. When we are attached to someone we restrict their freedom. This is counterproductive.
   We need to assess ourselves and our relations to find which relation is an attachment and where is real love. Relations must be nurtured with genuine love and care by unfolding the positive qualities and eliminating the negative qualities. It must be an expression of our selfless love rather than a bondage for our loved ones. One must stay away form attachment and sow love in relations to have long lasting relations where we are remembered for our selfless care, concern and love towards our dear ones. Get detached and let your loved ones blossom by your love; do not strangle them with your attachment.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular Posts

Workplace Hypocrisy

Image
  A discrepancy in what a person says / claims to believe and how a person behaves / treats others is called hypocrisy. Hypocrisy at the work place can be in various forms and it can detrimental to the overall workplace. There are many people around us who are hypocrites and they are masters in poisoning the workplace and throwing toxicity around. People who are not hypocrites suffer the most in organizations where workplace hypocrisy exists. They go through severe stress and suffer unnecessarily for being straightforward and honest compared to hypocrites. A hypocrite behaves in the following ways: @@Double standards: When there are a different set of rules for different people / groups within an organization; one can smell the hypocrisy in the atmosphere. Double standards breed resentment and dissatisfaction within the employees. Being partial towards someone for an error and punishing somebody else for the same error would lead to disharmony within the organization. @@ Lack of transp
Read more

True Friendship

Image
 I am very choosy about each and everything that I have; but I am the most fussiest when it comes to choosing friends. I do not have a huge gang of friends but the friends I have can topple a gang for me. I am selfless, sensitive and supportive towards all my friends no matter what. I am blessed with friends who makes my life fulfilling and precious. You come across people who just pretend to be friends and never value the ones who consider them as their friends. If you are a true friend you will genuinely value and nurture the relation with utmost care and sincerity. You would do anything to see a smile on the face of your friend.  A true friend is one with whom you share a deep and meaningful bond that is based on trust, mutual respect, support and affection. True friendship transcends beyond the boundaries of time, distance and mere acquaintances. The connection that true friends share is genuine, enriching and enduring. True friends must be genuine and authentic with one another wi
Read more

The First World War As A Crucial Issue in Virginia Woolf's Novel Mrs. Dalloway

Image
  Introduction The First World War, also known as the Great War, was fought from 1914 to 1918. It was a global conflict involving major powers from Europe and other regions. The war was triggered by a complex of political, economic, and territorial factors, including alliances and rivalries between states. The impact on people during the First World War was enormous and far-reaching. Millions of soldiers and civilians lost their lives, making it one of the deadliest conflicts in history. The war caused unprecedented devastation, causing the collapse of empires, social disorder, and economic ruin. Families and communities suffered as they lost loved ones and faced the challenges of rebuilding their lives after the war. On the home front, the war claimed significant civilian casualties as economies were mobilized for the war effort. Women played a key role in the workforce, filling the vacancies of men in the military. The war also brought advances in military technology and medici
Read more