Pratima Shah

Can a relation be toxic? If yes, then why does one continue to live within that relation? A toxic relation is that relation wherein on coming in touch with that person your head boils in rage, you become rude and impolite, you have no control over your feelings and words. You just start feeling negativity when you are with that person. You hate the presence of that person and feel deprived of your self respect in the presence of that person. In mutual relations within a family, there may be many individuals who survive despite of having a toxic and volatile relation with the other. This could be between a mother-daughter, father-daughter, mother-son, father-son, husband - wife, son-in-law and the in laws, daughter-in -law and the in laws and many more. It is very much taxing to the mind to be in such kind of toxicity all the while. One person is the silent sufferer and sometimes the sufferer has bouts of anguish and frustration over the other person. People who are into such toxic

Thanking someone is an art which not all of us possess. Saying 'thank you' to someone for the smallest of the things done for us makes the other person very happy. It even motivates the person to continue doing those things. We must always thank a person if he/she praises us for our achievements or compliments us on anything. When you are not able to keep your time and have made someone wait for you, always thank the person for waiting for you and having patience with you. Just saying a sorry for being late does not create any impact over the person but showing gratitude as he/she waited for you makes you memorable in the eyes of the person. During situations of offering condolences to a person be thankful to the person for remembering to convey the news of death in this tragic hour. If one of your acquaintances lost the job and tells you about it, make it a point to say 'thank you' for considering you a special person and sharing this news to you. In case you r

                          "Pray as though no work would help, and work as though no prayer would help". When we pray as though no work would help, we focus our all attention to God, the Almighty. Praying with fervent intensity and single - mindedness God will never ignore us. It is because God knows when we sincerely pray, when we are in real pain and when doe he really need to come to our aid. So if the prayers are half-hearted then God may not pay heed to them. Only if a seeker is truly yearning for God, God hears her/him. When we work, we should work as if no prayer would help. This applies to such people who do not pray but put in their best efforts to attain their goals. Such people think that whatever they have achieved in life is due to their efforts. They neither remember God nor do they pray. They do not believe in God's power nor feel that God is the Supreme power. True spirituality lies in the combination of both these attitudes. We should play our part

   Every disease comes as a specific message/signal for us. Our body listens to what our mind says. The auto immune system gets the message from the hypothalamus whenever a danger is going to come. The hypothalamus conveys this to the adrenal gland, and this gland immediately releases Cortisol. Cortisol shrinks the blood vessels which lead to blood pressure. It increases the sugar level into the liver and puts the body into a fight/flight mode. In short, we humans are nothing but our hypothalamus. The body believes that you may need this sugar and thus it is stored in the form of visceral fat.    Auto immune diseases – thyroid, epilepsy, hair loss, and allergies are all in our mind not in our body. All pains in the body are emotional pains. Auto immune diseases are the result of subjective experiences, e.g. diseases like thyroid, arthritis, allergies, epilecia and psoriasis. Loneliness leads to excessive eating. People with SEE (Significant Emotional Experience) have cancer.

   We all have been listening to the miracles our wonderful and powerful mind can perform. But still how many of us have tapped into this enormous energy reservoir within us? Our mind is the one that directs our personality and helps us in taking day to day decisions - big or small.    Our mind is the force that enables us to do everything as it is the primary source of our energy in everything we do. We release less energy while doing easy tasks. But when we decide to take up something difficult the mind releases a greater amount of energy. Thus it can be said that it is only through our efforts that we can build our personality. A person who is easy going receives less energy from the mind and this results in the person being a weak person. In contrast if a person is ambitious and has big aspirations, the mind receives greater energy and makes the person a strong person. We all are born with the same potential but everyone of us in some or the other way either use or misuse this

   Have you neglected your self and lived to please others? There are many examples of people who have neglected themselves and spent their lives in living up to the wishes/orders of the opposite person. Relations between a brother-sister, husband-wife, friends and many more thrive only on one person trying to fulfill the demands of the other and please the other. This "Self- neglect" ruins the mental status of the person who is constantly under the pressure of trying to fit into the mold of the other person.    Its a traumatic phase for the person as the person constantly lives in a fear of being left out if he/she does not fit in. Such persons do not think of themselves and are not at all interested in shaping their life. In case they try to do so they live in constant guilt of not doing what is expected by the opposite person. They are labelled with various names too by the near and dear ones. Some are threatened that they may lose the love and attention of the other

    It has been proven by the theory of Emotional Intelligence that your feelings have a huge impact on the overall health of an individual. A particular feeling that arises in you starts flowing in every cell of you body. It moves from your cerebral system to the immune system, cardiovascular system and all the major organs of the body. Due to this emotional intelligence hold greater prominence in the success and happiness of an individual compared to the past when intelligence quotient held more weightage. The scenario today has changed, thanks to the epoch concept of Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman.    Understanding and feeling what the other person goes through is showing empathy. The neurons of empathy are located in the cerebral system. This system is very much active at the neurological level. The neurons of empathy continuously keep on originating in our brain. Empathy, sympathy, apathy and antipathy have a huge impact on the feelings. To have a healthy behavior w