Pratima Shah

   Have you neglected your self and lived to please others? There are many examples of people who have neglected themselves and spent their lives in living up to the wishes/orders of the opposite person. Relations between a brother-sister, husband-wife, friends and many more thrive only on one person trying to fulfill the demands of the other and please the other. This "Self- neglect" ruins the mental status of the person who is constantly under the pressure of trying to fit into the mold of the other person.    Its a traumatic phase for the person as the person constantly lives in a fear of being left out if he/she does not fit in. Such persons do not think of themselves and are not at all interested in shaping their life. In case they try to do so they live in constant guilt of not doing what is expected by the opposite person. They are labelled with various names too by the near and dear ones. Some are threatened that they may lose the love and attention of the other

    It has been proven by the theory of Emotional Intelligence that your feelings have a huge impact on the overall health of an individual. A particular feeling that arises in you starts flowing in every cell of you body. It moves from your cerebral system to the immune system, cardiovascular system and all the major organs of the body. Due to this emotional intelligence hold greater prominence in the success and happiness of an individual compared to the past when intelligence quotient held more weightage. The scenario today has changed, thanks to the epoch concept of Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman.    Understanding and feeling what the other person goes through is showing empathy. The neurons of empathy are located in the cerebral system. This system is very much active at the neurological level. The neurons of empathy continuously keep on originating in our brain. Empathy, sympathy, apathy and antipathy have a huge impact on the feelings. To have a healthy behavior w

     The children today mature very at a very early age these days. They begin to lose their innocence at a very tender age around 5 -6 years. The food habits, sedentary life style and many other factors like television, mobiles and exposure to unnecessary things which cause a hormonal imbalance at a tender age makes them appear big physically but not mentally. The early adolescence brings in many issues which are not easily sorted out by the parent. Due to this the child is under too much pressure to belong to his/her circle. There is tough competition for today's child wherever he/she goes. This pressure results into too much of stress and depression in a child from a very young age.    The child pulls away itself from the parents and blames the parents later for the loneliness and abandoning it. There is too much of conflict with resistance and the parent is blamed for not being a good communicator and not being a easy parent to live with. They want a lot of privacy and sti

   A huge difference can be observed in the children of today. The lot of my age, i. e all those who are in their 40's may have barely used the word 'bored'. But the children today get bored so easily. Wherever we go there are children of today saying, 'I am bored', 'I don't like this' etc etc. The kids today have all they need or say more than they need still they are bored. In the last decade it has been witnessed that there is a drastic change in the mentality of children. The greatest change among this is that the children today are 'seekers of sensation'. They seek fun, excitement and thrill in everything they do. Every child wants to be considered 'fun loving'. They keep on wandering here and there to find fun and excitement. They are even eager to post and share this on social media. Some of them are so eager to announce it that they even go live on social media. This tendency of children does not allow them to enjoy anythin

     Many a times the circumstances or incidences that occur in our life are so complex that it becomes rather difficult and impossible for us to arrive at a neutral conclusion. These phases are mostly witnessed by us all in our relationships and precisely happen a lot with the bunch of people with whom we live. This happens because every person has his/her version of the story. While dealing with such complex issues in relationships it is often observed that whenever there is a dispute between 2 persons, say for example there are 2 friends A and B. When you listen to the story of A, you feel A is right and when you listen to B, you feel B is right. Both are true and both are liars. It is because both have their own perception and their own story. None of them wants to put their foot down and arrive at a conclusion. And this continues lifelong. Observing the cycle of relationships around it can be understood that whenever there is any dispute between two, it is very difficult to an

   The standards of beauty have changed due to westernization and this has hugely impacted the middle class women around. The world has accustomed itself to the new definition of feminity in India and whether one likes it or not, agrees/disagrees we have to accept the changed criteria of beauty. To look beautiful or preserve one's natural beauty requires a lot of effort. Its a life long commitment which a woman makes with herself in taking care of herself inside-outside. Today's woman has to set time aside for herself to look beautiful by sparing time from her hectic daily grind to enhance her beauty. Not every woman has the financial means to even fulfill them. They either do away with the home remedies or try out cheap unhygienic products. Every woman has to judiciously select her make up and clothes that suit her particular style and requirements. But the problem is that majority of the women today are blind followers of the film stars and models. They do not understand

   We are all afraid of pain. Every human tries to flee from pain. We try to escape from pain, try to find means to medicate, try to block it out or we flee. The point I am trying to make is that most of us i.e 95% of us flee from pain. Only 5% face it and understand that pain is the doorway to real power because when you suffer you become strong. When we go into the past and read the history of great people- there is one thing common to all – they all had broken hearts consistently and relentlessly. But rather than remaining stuck in their pain these were the people who fought with it and used it as fuel to find greater freedom, greater power, greater strength, greater gifts, greater wisdom, greater humanity, in service of as many people as possible. Are we able to do this?    I have been an admirer of Kahlil Gibran’s writing and in one his books The Prophet he writes in a chapter On Pain: 'Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding, even as